Post by Admin on Mar 14, 2013 18:38:43 GMT -5
Long distance relationships can be any type of relationship, including family, romantic or a friendship. A relationship can change to a long distance relationship when one of you moves away for work, school, or because your family moves. Others might form when you meet someone when traveling and sometimes relationships start as long distance ones, for example when you meet someone online.
Benefits of long distance relationships
Long distance relationships can be as satisfying as regular relationships. Some positive things about having a long distance relationship include:
Space and independence. Not having someone living near by can be an opportunity for you to explore your interests, your dreams, and other relationships that you may have. Strengthening other relationships might mean that you are less dependent on your long distant relationship for support.
Exploring different ways to communicate. Being able to talk on the phone or email/write to someone can be a great way to find out more about each other. It is not uncommon to discover things about each other that may have been harder to do if you were face to face. This could be especially so at the beginning of a relationship.
Valuing the relationship. Being away from someone can help you to better appreciate them and you may be less likely to take them for granted (or just focus on the physical side). When you do see them it may be more special and exciting.
Stronger relationship. The additional challenges and commitment of a long distance relationship might make the relationship stronger.
Challenges of long distance relationships and ways to overcome them
All relationships have challenges; however long distance relationships often present additional ones. Some of tough things about being in a long distance relationship might include:
Physical distance. Not having someone that you care about close to you, especially when you might need them for emotional support (or a hug!) can be tough. If you are feeling this way, you might ask for a hug from another friend or family member. Even though it’s not the same, it can sometimes be a good substitute until next time you meet up.
Loneliness - You might feel lonely and sad about not being able to go out regularly and have fun with the person, or because you’re not able to be more involved in their life. If you are feeling this way, give that person a call to say hi - hearing their voice might help you to work through the loneliness and look forward to your next meeting.
Jealousy and insecurity. You might worry that a friend no longer needs you or that your boyfriend/girlfriend will break up with you because they are interested in someone else (even though you have nothing to base the thought on). If you are feeling this way, it might help to talk to someone outside the relationship, such as a family member, friend or counselor who can help you work through why you might be feeling that way and provide ideas that can help you deal with those feelings.
Sustaining a long distance relationship
Sustaining a long distance relationship can be challenging and, like most relationships, needs commitment, trust, patience and honesty to work. Some things that might help to create and sustain a fulfilling long distance relationship include:
Regular communication. Keeping in contact with someone in a long distance relationship might take extra effort. Conversation via phone, instant messaging, emails, texts, and letters can be a great way to express your feelings, share your experience and allow them to stay involved in your life.
Talk to other friends and family about your relationship. This can be a great way to remind yourself and others that this person is still an important part of your life even though they live miles away.
Trust and openness. It is important to have trust in a relationship, and to have confidence that they are faithful and are thinking of you.
Plan times when to meet up with the person. It might be helpful for you to plan when you are next seeing the person you are away from as this can give you something to look forward to. If your relationship is a romantic one, you might plan to live in the same place at some stage in the future.
When things aren’t working out
Like any relationship, there can be times in a long distance relationship that you argue or go through tough times. This may not mean the end of the relationship; instead it could be a result of a lack of communication, a difference in opinion, or uncertainty about how the relationship is going.
Benefits of long distance relationships
Long distance relationships can be as satisfying as regular relationships. Some positive things about having a long distance relationship include:
Space and independence. Not having someone living near by can be an opportunity for you to explore your interests, your dreams, and other relationships that you may have. Strengthening other relationships might mean that you are less dependent on your long distant relationship for support.
Exploring different ways to communicate. Being able to talk on the phone or email/write to someone can be a great way to find out more about each other. It is not uncommon to discover things about each other that may have been harder to do if you were face to face. This could be especially so at the beginning of a relationship.
Valuing the relationship. Being away from someone can help you to better appreciate them and you may be less likely to take them for granted (or just focus on the physical side). When you do see them it may be more special and exciting.
Stronger relationship. The additional challenges and commitment of a long distance relationship might make the relationship stronger.
Challenges of long distance relationships and ways to overcome them
All relationships have challenges; however long distance relationships often present additional ones. Some of tough things about being in a long distance relationship might include:
Physical distance. Not having someone that you care about close to you, especially when you might need them for emotional support (or a hug!) can be tough. If you are feeling this way, you might ask for a hug from another friend or family member. Even though it’s not the same, it can sometimes be a good substitute until next time you meet up.
Loneliness - You might feel lonely and sad about not being able to go out regularly and have fun with the person, or because you’re not able to be more involved in their life. If you are feeling this way, give that person a call to say hi - hearing their voice might help you to work through the loneliness and look forward to your next meeting.
Jealousy and insecurity. You might worry that a friend no longer needs you or that your boyfriend/girlfriend will break up with you because they are interested in someone else (even though you have nothing to base the thought on). If you are feeling this way, it might help to talk to someone outside the relationship, such as a family member, friend or counselor who can help you work through why you might be feeling that way and provide ideas that can help you deal with those feelings.
Sustaining a long distance relationship
Sustaining a long distance relationship can be challenging and, like most relationships, needs commitment, trust, patience and honesty to work. Some things that might help to create and sustain a fulfilling long distance relationship include:
Regular communication. Keeping in contact with someone in a long distance relationship might take extra effort. Conversation via phone, instant messaging, emails, texts, and letters can be a great way to express your feelings, share your experience and allow them to stay involved in your life.
Talk to other friends and family about your relationship. This can be a great way to remind yourself and others that this person is still an important part of your life even though they live miles away.
Trust and openness. It is important to have trust in a relationship, and to have confidence that they are faithful and are thinking of you.
Plan times when to meet up with the person. It might be helpful for you to plan when you are next seeing the person you are away from as this can give you something to look forward to. If your relationship is a romantic one, you might plan to live in the same place at some stage in the future.
When things aren’t working out
Like any relationship, there can be times in a long distance relationship that you argue or go through tough times. This may not mean the end of the relationship; instead it could be a result of a lack of communication, a difference in opinion, or uncertainty about how the relationship is going.
